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Simple Ways You Can Rebuild Your Confidence After a Setback

by Brad Krause

After spending most of his time in a corporate setting and neglecting his own self-care far too long, Brad embraced his calling and decided to become a full-time life coach. He now spends the rest of his life helping people get a better foothold on their wellness above all else.

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Many people can confirm they have experienced an instance where their confidence was smashed and they needed to rebuild from the ground up. This could happen because of an acrimonious break-up, failing an exam, or losing a job, to name a few. Inc. magazine points out that confidence is a big determinant of achievement, and it can drive you to overcome difficult challenges. However, many people don’t have as much confidence as they need to work through challenges.

If you feel your confidence is shattered and you would like to re-energize and enjoy your life, here are ways you can restore your confidence daily, presented by High Heels & Hot Flashes.

Acknowledge What Destroyed Your Confidence

To handle a problem effectively, begin by highlighting the source. Acknowledge what caused your situation and work on fixing that first, assuming it’s something you can work through on your own. You don’t need to pretend things never happened; it would be difficult to build confidence if the problem that caused it still lingers. Facing your challenges head-on restores your power and puts you back in control of things.

Embrace a Fitness Routine

Mayo Clinic confirms the many benefits of working out, including the ability to improve your muscle strength, which boosts your endurance. Exercise helps deliver oxygen and nutrients to tissues, which enhances your cardiovascular system and makes it work more efficiently. When you improve your lung and heart health, you will have more energy to handle daily chores. If your self-esteem issues are linked to body perception, a fitness routine can help you build confidence as it improves your body image. Seeing the results from your workout routine can improve your self-esteem and could be the key to feeling better.

Get Out of Toxic Situations

Often, your confidence will be affected by a toxic situation or a person who saps your energy. If it’s your job or career that’s creating this situation, consider a career change — if possible. Attaining that elusive degree by going back to school will get you into an environment where you can implement your goals and avoid all the disruptions you’re experiencing.

If you have emotionally abusive friends or relatives, you may need to sever ties. This may appear like “running away,” but it comes with incredible relief that can remove you from a toxic environment.

Turn to Your Mentors

If you’re stuck in a project you want to complete, you can consult your mentors to release much of the stress. There are many people who can guide you when you feel like your life has come to a standstill. These include family members, friends, and colleagues. Share with them about your frustrations and they may be able to help you get back on your feet.

Take a Look at Your Finances

During the pandemic, many people were affected financially, a situation that shattered confidence. One way to survive in difficult times like these is understanding how to manage financial stress. You can explore different ways to save, including refinancing your home, which decreases equity in your home and frees up cash. With the cash, you can work on important projects that were halted by the sudden changes during the pandemic.

Start a Snowball of Success

You don’t need to complete major projects at once. Create small wins and enjoy the sensation of winning, which can inspire you to accomplish other goals — even something as simple as creating and sticking to a morning routine is a step in the right direction. When you complete a small project, your body will release dopamine and testosterone, which can create the “addiction” for success. Higher levels of testosterone will boost your desire for more and can improve your risk tolerance. Dopamine is a feel-good hormone that tells your brain, “I like this.” The more your small wins, the larger your snowball will grow.

Lacking confidence can make it difficult to approach different challenges. If you want to boost your confidence, review your life and identify the things that affect how you view yourself. Work on those barriers and avoid anything that creates stress.

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Brad Krause may be reached at brad@selfcaring.info